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What to do With Worry

Submissive dogHow often do you find yourself worrying about things?  How much of your time and energy is eaten up with worry?

Consider this idea – worrying is the same as wishing for something but in a negative way.  If you believe in the law of attraction, think what you are attracting by worrying about someone or something.

Dr. Edward Hallowell, psychiatrist and author of ‘Worry’, argues that whilst worry serves a purpose and when used wisely, leads to constructive action, toxic worry paralyzes you and can be harmful for your mental and physical health.  He suggests that you should not worry alone because you are far more likely to find solutions when discussing your concerns with a friend and good human contact and a big hug does wonders. He also recommends finding out more information about the issue or make sure that your information is correct.

If you spend far too long worrying about others, try this simple exercise:

Think about what your worry looks like – what colours and textures would represent it.  How heavy would it look and would it look hot or cold?  Think of all the details and imagine if you were to paint a picture of your worry, what would the picture look like?  Now create that picture in your imagination and give it a nice frame to finish it off, as if it was going to be displayed.

Now imagine giving the picture of worry to the person that you are worrying about.  Would they like it?  How would it make them feel?  Is it really the sort of present you would want to give them?  This is how you are holding them in your thoughts.

Use this as your opportunity to re-evaluate how you are thinking about this person and the energy you are expelling in the process.

Now think what the ideal paining of how you feel about them and one that you would love to present them with would look like.  What colours, textures and other qualities would it have?  Now imagine this new picture in a lovely frame and you giving it to that person.  How would they feel about this painting as a gift instead?

Anytime you think of this person, bring this new masterpiece to mind.

The Apache have a custom which is to hang a basket outside their home and visitors to the house are to place their burdens in the basket before entering their home.  The saying ‘leave your burdens at the door’ originated with these worry baskets.

This is another good way to deal with your worries – it is not just about bringing worries to others but also to yourself.  Get yourself a basket or box, write down your worries and put them into it.  They are still your issues but by putting them in the basket or box, you won’t be projecting them onto others and will have the opportunity to review them objectively.  You could even have a little ceremony to shred or bury them as a symbolic way of letting them go.

If you find yourself toxic worrying, the Lightning Process is a great tool to use.  If you want to find out more about this, email me and I would be happy to arrange a chat.