Change is one thing in life that is guaranteed! Whether you are someone who welcomes change or you fight against it – it will happen! You will evolve, adapt and change just as the seasons come and go and we all get older.
Nature is a brilliant example of change and adaption and I’ve witnessed so much recently whilst getting to grips with my new garden. Plants that have run out of space, find ways of adapting to get into the light, and watching the young swallows nesting in the barn grow up and take flight and fly away for winter.
Our work here at the Lightning Process is all about how you can create great change in your life and the aim is for you to be absolutely thrilled with the changes you make. Unfortunately, there are instances when people around you can find it hard to adapt to the ‘new, improved you’ which can be challenging. Even though those who love you dearly and want the absolute best for you can find it hard to adapt because the change affects them too and takes them out of their comfort zone.
So, what happens when those around you struggle with the changes you make?
There can be many reasons for people being uneasy with your changes. One of the big ones is that they were happy and comfortable with the old you. They knew where they stood and what their role was – there is comfort in the known.
By you making changes, they can feel threatened and unsure of how it will affect their relationship with you and the role they now play. They may have to change and adapt in order to maintain their status and this can lead to all sorts of fear and resistance.
So what do you do if someone is finding it difficult to come to terms with the ‘new you’?
Give them space. Remember that even if it is you who has made major changes to your health and life, it will affect everyone around you and change the balance of relationships. They may need some time and space to figure out for themselves what their role is in this new relationship.
Communicate with them. Talk to them and let them know what your goals are and share how you would like your relationship to develop going forward. Make suggestions of things you can do to help build on and strengthen your relationship in a healthy way.
It’s OK to make others feel a little uncomfortable. Ultimately, you can only be responsible for yourself and the changes you choose to make. Those around you will have to adapt which can be a little uncomfortable for them at first but in the long term, they will become used to the changes and see the benefits of embracing them.
If you are concerned about how your changes are affecting people in your life, we are happy to talk with you and discover what we can do to help.