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You Don’t Have to Catch the Ball

This post was inspired by a book ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff’ by Richard Carlson which is very in tune with the teachings of the LP.

A chapter title that stood out was, ‘If someone throws you a ball, you don’t have to catch it’ – brilliant!  It went on to discuss how often we get caught up in other peoples’ struggles and trying to solve other peoples’ problems.

How often do you find yourself being thrown a concern, and you automatically assume that you must catch it?

Imagine you are really busy, and a friend calls and expresses her frustration at her partner, family etc.  Rather than saying, “I will have to call you back later” or let the call go to voicemail, you get straight into the role of trying to solve the problem.  You then spend the next hour stressing and trying to catch up with what you were originally doing.  Argh!

Take it one step further and you could even feel resentful, because everyone wants your attention, or is making demands on you.  Interestingly you stop recognising your willing participation in the dramas of life.

In celebration of this title – remember, you don’t have to catch the ball every time!  You can drop it sometimes.  It doesn’t mean you can’t ever catch the metaphoric ball, but it does means you have a choice.  This choice will certainly help you to bring some calm back into your life.

Life is full of different balls being thrown at you, from all different angles.  Being selective over which ones you catch, will allow you to find a little peace and tranquility in your life.

Consider this: next time you answer the phone, or reply to text when you are busy – you are choosing to participate when you could leave it for later.

This idea also applies to comments, or unwanted feedback from someone – you can catch it and feel upset, or simply let it go and continue with your day.

Just because a ball is thrown to you – you don’t have to catch it.  Have a think about this simple phrase, and I’m sure you’ll be shocked at how many balls you catch in your day and how many  you could let go.

If you need help with setting boundaries or letting ‘balls’ drop, contact us for a chat to find out how I can help you.