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Discover Your Core Values and Act on Them

core values blogYour core values are your driving force, they form the foundation behind what motivates you and how you operate within your life.  They are the essence of your beliefs and your measures of integrity.

Your values will be individual to you but your culture, upbringing, beliefs etc. will have played a role in creating them and will affect the way you operate at every level from your sense of right and wrong to your preferences.

Recognising  your core values at a conscious level will help you to not only understand what your driving forces are but also to take action on them.  Acting on your core values will help you to achieve a balance in your life that is both fitting and fulfilling.

The starting point is to identify what is most important to you.  Follow this question asking strategy to find yours.

Start off by choosing a behaviour or something you do regularly, for example, working hard.

Then you need to ask questions to identify why you do what you do, and you repeat them replacing the initial behaviour with the first answer and then the second answer and so on.

So taking our example of working hard, ask: What does working so hard give me that is important for me?  Perhaps the answer would be, so I can make money.

The next question would be: What does earning money give me that is important?  It could be so that I can provide for my family.

Then ask: What does providing for my family give me that is important for me?  The answer could be so I that they will be happy and secure.

Nest ask: What does having a happy and secure family give me that is important for me?  A possible answer for this would be, it gives me peace of mind.

In this example, peace of mind is what’s really important and is therefore a core value. By recognising this you can avoid some of the set behaviours such as fear and overwhelm around working hard and choose to go straight to peace of mind which is far more useful.

Go through this strategy for yourself on different examples from your life and with every answer ask what does having X give me that is really important for me?’.  Do this until you are unable to find any further answers, at this point you have identified your core value.

Another useful exercise on values was developed by business coach John Assaraf which will help you to connect to what you value most in your life.  Start by writing down all the things you value in your life, some examples could be things like health, time, freedom, creativity, love, fun or peace.  Select your most important ten and put them in order from one to ten, where one has the highest value.

The question to then ask yourself is: What must I do to today to act upon my number one value?  If for example, you have health first, you would be asking yourself what you could do today to ensure you act upon it so that could be anything from eating healthily to doing some exercise or taking some time out to relax.

The idea behind this is that when you take care of your highest values and the most important things first, your life overall is more meaningful and you will generally feel calmer and more balanced.

Try out these two great exercises for yourself and see what values you recognise and decide what you are going to do today to act on them.

If you would like to find out more about how the Lightning Process could help you, please contact me and I’ll be happy to arrange a chat and answer your questions.